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Learning About Life in Japan Through Words (4) How to say “thank you” in Japan without tipping?

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Today’s Topic

In many countries, tipping at restaurants and hotels is seen as a “sign of thanks.” In Japan, however, there is no tipping custom. Even so, people express “thank you” through words and small actions in daily life.

In this article, we look at why there is no tipping and learn simple Japanese phrases to show gratitude.


Today’s Words (Reading + IPA)

Here are common expressions for “thank you.” Try them in everyday situations.

JapaneseReading (kana)IPAMeaning & usage
「ありがとうございます」「ありがとうございます」[aɾiɡatoː ɡozaimasɯ]The most common polite thanks. Used for what someone does now or has just done.
「ありがとうございました」「ありがとうございました」[aɾiɡatoː ɡozaimaɕita]Thanks for something already finished. Good when leaving a shop.
「ごちそうさまでした」「ごちそうさまでした」[ɡotɕisoːsame deɕita]Said after eating to thank the cook or the shop. At home or in restaurants.
「お世話になります」「おせわになります」[osewa ninaɾimasɯ]Said before receiving help. Often in work or procedures.
「感謝申し上げます」「かんしゃもうしあげます」[kaɴɕa moːɕiaɡemasɯ]Very formal. For letters and speeches.
Note

IPA is the International Phonetic Alphabet. In real speech, the vowel “う (ɯ)” can be weak (for example, 「です」 ≈ [des]). For learning, we show basic forms.


Culture Note: In Japan, feelings are “handed over” with words

Instead of a tip, people use words to show gratitude. Phrases like 「ありがとうございます」 and 「ごちそうさまでした」 stand for a culture of giving back with the heart, not with money.

Some people feel that giving money makes the relationship feel like hiring. Gratitude is exchanged between equals; it is natural to use words and attitude, not cash.

Callout

In some hotels or tourist spots, a small “token” is not unheard of. But it is not common. Start with words first.


Grammar Point: 「〜てくれてありがとう」 (Thank you for …)

It feels warmer when you say what you are thankful for.

Basic form

「〜てくれてありがとう」(Thank you for doing …)

SentenceMeaning
「手伝ってくれてありがとう。」Thank you for helping me.
「来てくれてありがとう。」Thank you for coming.
「話してくれてありがとう。」Thank you for sharing your feelings.

This is close to English “Thank you for doing …,” but in Japanese it can sound more empathetic toward the person’s action.

To be more polite, say 「〜てくださってありがとうございます」.

Practice: Rewrite (A2)

Change the sentences into 「〜てくれてありがとう」.

  • 「きのう、道を教えてくれました。」→「道を教えてくれてありがとう。」(Yesterday you told me the way. → Thank you for telling me the way.)
  • 「ドアを開けてくれました。」→「ドアを開けてくれてありがとう。」(You opened the door for me. → Thank you for opening the door.)
  • 「メールを送ってくれました。」→「メールを送ってくれてありがとう。」(You sent me an email. → Thank you for sending the email.)
「〜てくれて」って?

「〜てくれて」 shows the other person did something for you. It includes your warm feeling.


Learn “thank you” in situations

Even without tipping, words and small actions show care.

  • At a shop: Lightly bow and say 「ありがとうございました」 (Thank you very much.) after paying.
  • After a meal: Before leaving your seat, say 「ごちそうさまでした」 (Thank you for the meal.).
  • When someone helps you: Say 「助かりました。ありがとうございます」 (That helped me. Thank you.).
  • When someone shows you the way: Say 「ありがとうございます。助かりました」 (Thank you. That helped me.).
  • When asking for work help: Say 「お世話になります。どうぞよろしくお願いします」 (I appreciate your support. Thank you in advance.).
Note

A small bow and a smile help a lot. Keep your voice at a level that does not disturb others.


FAQs (easy explanations)

Q1. Is it rude to give a tip?

A. Usually it is not needed, and it may confuse the person. Use words first.

Q2. I want to be more polite.

A. Replace 「ありがとうございます」 with 「誠にありがとうございます」 or 「感謝申し上げます」 in formal situations.

Q3. I want to sound casual.

A. With friends, 「ありがとう!」 is fine. Look at the person and say it clearly.


Today’s Summary

  • In Japan, people say thanks with words instead of tips.
  • Gratitude is an exchange of equal feelings, not of money.
  • Use 「〜てくれてありがとう」 to say exactly what you appreciate.
  • A small bow and a smile also carry kindness.

Next time: “Life in Japan Through Words (5)” Why stay quiet on trains? — Learn kindness through words

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